We were asked to introduce ourselves and add an interesting fact. Everyone said their names and then added that they were married. (Very interesting fact, guys). I was one of the last few to stand up. Amused at everyone’s response as 90% of them were married, I said my name and added that I’m not married. Everyone laughed. They thought it was hilarious.
Five years later, I’m still not married. But if I tried that joke now, everyone would feel terrible for me. Laughter would not fill that room. I’m at an age that it is unacceptable to be single. Almost equivalent to being unsuccessful. The question is an elephant in the room, ‘Why are you not married yet? Is something wrong with you?’.
A few weeks ago, I told a friend that I send updates about my life through emails every 2 weeks or so – her response took me aback. She asked me ‘You’re single so what would you even write about?’ And she laughed aloud. That stung.
So this one is for all my single friends. For the one who has been rejected too many times this past year that you’ve lost count. For the one who feels they’re not worth anything. For the one who can’t believe in the idea of marriage after seeing too many broken marriages. For the one who has been constantly looked down upon because of their marital status. This one’s for you, friend.
As I prayed I felt God impress upon me this idea that there will only be one person who enters a jewelry store who has enough money to purchase the most expensive piece of jewelry in that store. A large number of people who go to this store will settle for other pieces of jewelry just because this specific piece is too expensive.
Though this piece of jewelry was worth the money and the most beautiful item in the store, there is just going to be one person who can afford it. This person doesn’t care what it would cost him because he knows the value of this jewel. He knows the beauty and he knows the process that made that piece what it is. He thinks it’s worth everything he has. That buyer understood the value of it, saved up for it and had a place to keep it safe. That person liked that piece so much that he couldn’t go home without it. Whatever the cost, he was willing to pay for it.
You’re that rare piece of jewelry. The one normal folk can’t afford. The one reserved for a specific person. It may take longer for that piece to sell but that’s because it’s worth so much more than the rest of the jewelry. There will be many people who will pass you by without a second glance. Overlooked and rejected is what you feel. But it’s not true.
You’re not overlooked or rejected. You’re merely kept in place till the right person comes along. Because he will come.
If you were my friend, I’d tell you that you’re beautiful and have a heart of gold. There’s nothing about you that’s messed up that God cannot clean. There’s nothing in you that’s flawed or broken. Inside and out, you’re perfect. You’re chosen by God and loved by Him. I hope you believe that you’re a precious stone that can’t be sold off a street but kept hidden until God’s perfect time. You’re everything God made you to be. Wonderfully knit and marvelously made. I sense your heavy heart but God senses it more than me. He knows you fully. He’s going to finish everything He has started. You’re not alone. God is with you. And remember, your marital status doesn’t define your life or isn’t a measurement of your success. So walk confidently and boldly, and if anyone does ask you if there is something wrong with you, ask them to check out Psalm 139:14.
1 Corinthians 7:17 (MSG) And don’t be wishing you were someplace else or with someone else. Where you are right now is God’s place for you. Live and obey and love and believe right there. God, not your marital status, defines your life.
Proverbs 31:10 (TPT) Who could ever find a wife like this one — she is a woman of strength and mighty valor! She’s full of wealth and wisdom. The price paid for her was greater than many jewels.
Isaiah 54:12 9 (TPT) “You unhappy one, storm-tossed and troubled, I am ready to rebuild you with precious stones and embed your foundation with sapphires. I will make your towers of rubies, your gates of sparkling jewels, and all your walls[o] of precious, delightful stones.”
Disclaimer: Please do not get the idea that you’re being sold to someone. I’m just making a comparison.